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Hello dearest mod!

There has been discussion lately about some bad behaviour going on in the prompt thread and I wanted to bring it to your attention in the hope you could make a reminder post about meme etiquette.

So, we have had a few instances of prompt-hijacking and prompt-criticising, including at least one where the hijacker made requests that were different from what the OP had asked for, while also suggesting that the OP's original prompt was OOC.

Additionally, the person who appears to be behind the hijackings very frequently signs their name to their comments, despite the fact that the point of the place is to be anonymous, and it's literally the first rule on the prompt post. So could we perhaps also have a reminder that this is an anonymeme?

Finally, there is someone on the kinkmeme (presumably a different someone) who has made it their mission to post as many prompts as they possibly can in the last three days. By that I mean that they have posted at least 70 prompts, all of which are easily identifiable as they come in batches of between 10 and 20, posted in five minute intervals over a period of a couple of hours, and are very distinctive in their format and wording (what I'm trying to say is it's obvious they are all coming from the same person). While it's great someone loves the kinkmeme this much, it would be nice not only to have the promised prompt freeze at 4000 comments, but also a reminder that it's only fair to fill roughly as often as you prompt (or something along those lines).

So yeah, those are the main concerns that have been cropping up in the discussion post. I am hoping you can pull a Stephen Black, in that the kinkmeme is disordered and dirty, but an etiquette reminder might see all these faults set right. :)

Thanks, and sorry if this comes across as negative and/or presumptuous, I just love this place and am sad that a lot of lovely prompters have become frustrated and unhappy over the last few days.

OP here. Whoops, I just saw that someone else had already posted about the prompt hijackings aspect. Sorry about that, I didn't mean to duplicate requests here.

I still stand by my other points regarding meme anonymity and excessive prompting...

Cheers. :)

I highly endorse all of the above.

The person in question now appears to be using the kink meme as their own personal blog. It's starting to get infuriating but until the above anon had the courage to stand up and say something I did not dare say anything especially as others are encouraging the aforementioned bad meme behavior. Please kink meme ~~gods~~*ahem* mods, please can something be done? This and the 70+ prompter is turning my happy place into a ball of stress.

I would also like to add a request for something to be done about the 'I'm the only one filling anything here!' behavior of the person in question. As someone who has in fact posted 4 fills, which each took me some time and a lot of effort to write, I feel like this person is disrespecting the efforts of those of us who write slower, or who write very long fills and don't want to start posting until the entire fill is complete. Their constant demands for fills is also becoming very stressful for me, and making me not want to fill.

I agree. I have filled several prompts for a rarepair on this meme but when a request comes up for them I don't constantly shout about how I'm the only person that ever writes fills for them. This person is also constantly complaining of how their fills get no attention, which upsets me as neither do many of mine, but I'd never actually beg for comments - people either like my fills or they don't.

The mods might also want to note that this person has also reposted prompts because they didn't get much of a response. In fact, used the meme as a platform to say "seeing as you won't fill my prompt, tell me what to write and I will write it myself", which is certainly not how it works. (It did however get a huge response.) It doesn't actually say anything in the rules explicitly about reposting prompts, or asking for requests, but should it?

I think people on the meme should allow themselves to be braver about mentioning the rules to people who might not be clued up on meme etiquette, or this is just going to keep happening.

I think people on the meme should allow themselves to be braver about mentioning the rules to people who might not be clued up on meme etiquette, or this is just going to keep happening.

So. I did just that.

I think I need a lie down.

Anon you are insanely brave *salutes you*

Your description of the need for anonymous posting is so well-worded, I really do think that would be the perfect way to describe the importance of anonymity in the meme's guidelines. Constantly signing your name to comments/fills/prompts certainly encourages favoritism and it really isn't fair on the rest of us.

Yes, it's not the worst crime in the world (and people are welcomed to link to fills on their AO3, FFN etc.), but it does upset other fillers to see somebody being showered in comments/attention all the time because they're demanding it and ultimately these fillers are going to leave and go elsewhere.

OP of the original thread on the discussion thread here, and I wanted to let you know that, inspired by your courage, I did it too. I went on my old prompt, and I wrote to the poster who had hijacked it, letting them know about the rules and asking them not to do this again. I tried to be super polite about it, and still nice, but I'm still shaking. Thank you for giving me the courage to do this, anon. I've needed to do it for days, and you inspired me to do it!

OP you deserve all the cuddles in the world for being so courageous and indeed so polite about your upset. I hope the Norrell to your Strange will hold your hand to stop those tremors. If not, I shall have to do it through the internet!

Thanks!

OP for the 'friendly reminder' post, and I can second the other two issues as well! A quick little reminder of the rules and guidelines will hopefully clear all this up!

Hello all, sorry for the delay. The last couple of weeks I have only been tracking this mod post, thinking any problems would get reported here, so I wasn’t aware this was going on. Thank you for bringing this to light!

I will use the prompt freeze an opportunity to post a reminder about the rules with regards to prompt hijacking, criticism, and remaining anonymous. I'll also be adding a note to the rules asking that people do not spam the meme with prompts.

I’m sorry if this situation has caused any upset, I’m still catching up on what’s happened and I will be looking through recent replies to prompts to see if I need to step in and leave comments.

Thanks again, please comment if you'd like anything more done here, and please if there's anything happening on the meme that's troubling you, either comment in this post and let me know, or message me privately.

eta: I'll be more active on the meme now and the tumblr will start updating again. Work and real life have taken over recently, but I will have more free time soon.

Edited 2015-08-23 11:17 (UTC)

OP of the original thread on the discussions thread here, and I think things have resolved themselves okay for me at least. The person in question didn't realize that what they were doing was hijacking, and has apologized.

Just to check, anon, was this your prompt?
http://jsmn-kinkmeme.dreamwidth.org/1273.html?thread=1040889#cmt1040889

If so, it's clear it was derailed so perhaps you'd like to repost your prompt when the 2nd prompt post goes up after fill week, so you can start fresh? Sorry I wasn't aware that this was happening, in future I'll try and keep an eye out so it's nipped in the bud sooner.

Yes, that was my prompt. I might well repost, if that's all right! I'm sure the story that will result from the derailing will also be good, of course, but I'd love to see my original prompt filled too!

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